When you’re interviewing potential photographers, don’t be afraid to get specific – especially when identity is important to your friends and family. Here are some questions that can help:

• Have you done many same sex weddings?
• We’ve many non-binary friends. Are you comfortable using non-traditional pronouns?
• Can you share examples of how you’ve handled non-traditional wedding structures?
• We’re not used to posing as a same-sex couple. How have you approached this before?
• Are you used to working with drag queens or other performance artists?

Their answers will tell you a lot – not just about their experience, but about their values.

4. Read Between the Lines (and the Testimonials)

Testimonials are gold. Look for reviews from other queer couples. Do they mention feeling affirmed, relaxed, and joyful? Do they talk about how the photographer handled sensitive moments or family dynamics?

Also, pay attention to what’s not said. If every review is from a cis-het couple, that’s a red flag. You want someone whose portfolio and praise reflect the full spectrum of love.

5. Safety and Sensitivity Are Non-Negotiable

Queer weddings can involve complex emotions – especially if family acceptance is a concern. Your photographer should be someone who:

• Knows how to navigate delicate situations with empathy
• Respects boundaries around who is photographed and how
• Is prepared to advocate for you if needed

This isn’t just about professionalism – it’s about allyship. You deserve someone who’ll protect your joy.

6. Representation Matters – Behind and In Front of the Lens

Choosing a queer photographer (or one deeply embedded in the community) can make a world of difference. They’ll understand the nuances, the shorthand, the sparkle. They’ll know how to capture your love without forcing it into a heteronormative mold.

But even if your photographer isn’t queer, they should be actively committed to representation. That means ongoing education, inclusive practices, and a portfolio that reflects real diversity—not tokenism.

7. Trust Your Gut (and Your Glitter)

At the end of the day, this is your love story. You get to decide who tells it. If someone makes you feel seen, celebrated, and excited? That’s your person.

If something feels off – even if they’re technically perfect? Keep looking.

Your wedding is a declaration of who you are. Your photographer should be part of that celebration, not just a witness to it.

Bonus Tips for Queer Couples Choosing a Photographer

• Look for flexibility: Queer weddings often break tradition. Your photographer should embrace that, not resist it.
• Ask about editing style: Do they enhance natural tones, celebrate skin diversity, and avoid over-filtering?
• Consider a pre-wedding shoot: I call these my ‘practice runs’. it’s a brilliant way to get rid of the camera-shy nerves, build trust and get comfy before the big day.
• Check contracts: Make sure they include inclusive language and clear boundaries.
• Follow your joy: If their work makes you smile, laugh, or tear up? That’s a good sign.

Final Thoughts

Choosing a photographer for your wedding isn’t just about pretty pictures. It’s about finding someone who honours your love, your identity, and your story. Someone who’ll capture the quiet glances, the loud laughter, and the moment when your nan dances to RuPaul and Kylie.

So take your time. Ask questions. Trust your instincts. And remember – you’re Awesome People, and this is a celebration of the couple you’re meant to be.

Think I might tick some of these boxes? I’m a Birmingham Photographer but travel nationwide for my favourite people. If you want a quick chat over zoom, or a cup of tea or a pint in the Jewellery Quarter, get in touch below. Check out my related video over at Youtube, if you want to see me be bullied by my cat.